Wonderful of Loneliness

Wonderful of Loneliness - Every person in his life would never feel lonely. What makes the difference is the levels, duration, cause and of course handling. Most people avoid loneliness of lonely negative connotation, or at least does not cause an unpleasant feeling.
Today, almost everybody are on facebook and twitter, to stay connected with other, to be able to know what is being done his or her community. Fuel, YM, instant messenger becomes a means of connecting does not know the weather, time (working time, family time or time to pray, even - even sleep time). Indeed, not everyone had - a twitter account and facebook and do an online chat are lonely people. The premise is not the case. But in fact, almost everyone seems to want to say hello and addressed, comments and commented upon; want to be part of the community. Mall, cafes and restaurants more crowded than for filling the stomach, but as an opportunity for networking, and connecting a sense of reunion. The desire to keep in touch need not be forever.
Actually there is nothing wrong with this, but the problem is, there are many people who still feel lonely in hangout, in a crowd or in the high frequency of communications traffic via online chat. Loneliness is experienced by people living on the mountaintop or remote villages, because those who live in big cities are densely populated and frenetic entertainment that also appeared to feel more lonely.
Feelings of Loneliness
According to the Wikipedia definition, "Loneliness is an unpleasant feeling in the which a person experiences a strong sense of emptiness and Solitude resulting from inadequate levels of social relationships. However, it is a subjective experience. Also Loneliness has been described as social pain - a psychological mechanism meant to alert an individual of undesired isolation and MOTIVATE her / uterus to seek social connections.
Feelings of loneliness are often in correlation in the absence of friends and lack of affection. According to James Park, a wing existentialist philosopher said that feelings of loneliness is not always caused by a lack of love and friends, but because it is often misunderstood and not understood, then any kind of lonely and then overcome by socialization, courtship, marriage, etc are all related to the interpersonal relationship . For more details, below is a brief description of the causes of loneliness that turned out not only in love affairs.
Causes of Loneliness
Children, adolescents, young people to seniors, have experienced a sense of loneliness. The children feel lonely when their parents abandoned. Wife / husband is lonely because the loss of a spouse, due to death or separation. A girl or boy lonely after breaking up from a boyfriend. Mothers who are lonely because their children live outside the city. Or someone who is sick should stay at home or in hospital, isolated from friends and family. Moving house or changing schools can also lead to loneliness because uprooted from their communities and have to face the new community.
Loneliness is caused by social change or any change in external conditions are said to be temporary and relatively easy to overcome. Meanwhile there are other types of loneliness mentioned above, namely feeling lonely in a crowd, was at a party, was hanging out with friends, was in the middle of the family. So in any situation and scope, the feeling of loneliness is still there. This is what existential Loneliness.Someone who is experiencing an existential Loneliness, do not care as much and as high as the frequency of any outing, dating and chat her, will still feel lonely. According to an article from the Associate Press, "quantity of contact does not translate into quality of contact".
Existential Loneliness
Existential Loneliness often becomes something that is chronic because it already happened a long time without realizing it or is deliberately ignored. That is, the feeling of loneliness is recognized but not acted upon because they think the feeling is caused by environmental factors.
Chronic loneliness that this caused a sad feeling of emptiness, so many who can not stand and suffered depression. Emptiness that comes from the soul is due to various reasons, could be for life without direction and purpose, so that from day to day like a robot, just follow the rhythm of routine. There have not found the meaning, because life is very limited, not poor - but too sterile, flat, flat for being too afraid to take risks, so do not dare to navigate the opportunities and possibilities. There is also an empty feeling, because it does not find a good and positive things from him, so do not know what the point she was born, what good is this life and what good is it for others.
There are trying to eliminate the loneliness, emptiness and void by hanging out as much and as often as possible. Some are looking for love, because he thought, love someone soul will complete emptiness. As Tom Cruise said in the movie Jerry McGuire, who said "you complete me." The philosophical and psychological, mental emptiness can not be overcome by growing love / import love from the outside, and this is according to the philosophers is an act of illusion that "disconnected". Then, replace the pair, looking for new love that is considered and is expected to overcome the emptiness - is the act impossible. Because the solution is not able to patch the emptiness from the outside. That growth must come from within.
The impact of loneliness
Feelings of loneliness if prolonged can lead to various problems continued. Problems of social adaptation, it is difficult make friends, likes to be alone even academic barriers that make his achievement is far from optimal, is a lonely feeling the impact of long-experienced by children. In fact, according to Marano, lonely children because of social rejection, ignored and excluded from the social environment (or family), is one of the causes of dropping out of school, because in their daily life, they tend to exhibit aggressive behavior, and what is termed as a juvenile, as well as form other antisocial behavior. Among adults, loneliness is said to cause depression and addiction, be it addiction to the relationship (co-dependent), sex, shopping (shopaholic), work (workaholic), alcohol / liquor, or drugs (substant abuse).
Medically also shows the impact of loneliness on health. John Cacioppo of the University of Chicago examined the impact of this loneliness and surprisingly found that:
* People who are lonely have reported higher stress levels, even when relaxed compared with those who are not lonely.
* Loneliness increases circulating stress hormones and increase blood pressure.His influence on the circulatory system of the heart work harder and face the potential damage caused by an unstable pressure.
Loneliness disrupt sleep quality and effectiveness so that hamper the physical and psychological restoration process that the body needs. People who experience loneliness more often awakened at night and slept less than those who are not lonely.
Wonderful to be lonely
Loneliness is not always bad. Existential loneliness, the loneliness that interpersonal problems are not caused alarm from a situation that should be on the face or resolved.
A person enters the state of Loneliness Pls Some Compelling, essential aspect of life is challenged Suddenly, realized, threatened, altered, or denied, the individual is confronted with the awareness of choice and the possibility of meaning or its lack.Positively When embraced and confronted, Loneliness has a salutary role: the integration and deepening of self. Through Loneliness, the individual "discovers life, WHO he is, what he really wants, the meaning of his existence, and the true nature of his relations with others.

Thus, feelings of loneliness experienced need in question. Not everything can be cured by way of socializing or even find new love. Feelings of loneliness can be a sign that there is an urgent need that we must address in yourself, whether it be to resolve the pending issues, responding to the challenges of life, must develop your own potential, to make decisions about the future and live it boldly, or to leave the lifestyle during This is not productive, and so on. In essence, the feeling of loneliness is the beginning of growth. Thus, it is wrong if people try to avoid loneliness because of the quiet is that we can meet with yourself and honest dialogue to discover what is best and we must do now and in the future. The next issue is, how to run what was supposed to and it's time for us to perform. The more delayed, the farther we are from a trip to find themselves and grow a personality to suit our purpose and calling in life.